How to Overcome Self-Doubt
Self-doubt keeps you from achieving your goals. But how to combat it? The Public Speaker has a few great tips.
As an entrepreneur, I’ve experienced plenty of self-doubt. It usually shows up when I try to stretch myself to try something new. That nagging little voice says “I'm not good at _________.”? or ”I'll never be able to do THAT."
This morning I read a blog post by author Michele Rosenthal titled 7 Ways to Change Negative Beliefs About Yourself. She recommends dropping old assumptions about yourself that hold you back. "Past lack of success in no way predicts or affects the outcome of an action this time around," she writes. Assumptions like, "I can’t give a group presentation at work because I’ve always been shy," or "I can’t ask for a promotion because I’ve been doing the same job for so long" keep you from going after your goals.
If self-doubt is holding you back, then here’s your assignment for today:
First, identify the opportunity you’re afraid to take. Ask yourself what past experiences are making you doubt your success. Then, practice communicating a new message to yourself. Rosenthal suggests starting with this simple statement: “I’m open to shifting my belief about _________.” For me, I like to go even stronger with, “I’m committed to learning how to _________.”
I used to think affirmations were silly becuase I felt like I didn't beleive them and that just made things worse. For example, I just couldn't say, "I'm an excellent writer" becase a little voice would reply, "No, you're not." But when I say, "I'm committed to learning how to be an excellent writer." that seems so much more authentic and achievable.
What’s keeping you from trying something new today?