Mighty Mommy and Nicholas Day Discuss Amazing Infants
Babies are fascinating creatures who constantly keep us guessing. What are they thinking? Why do they do what they do? Thanks to author Nicholas Day’s new book, Baby Meets World, we get some amazing answers!
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Mighty Mommy: Now that we have a sense of how generations before us handled some of these supposed “worrisome” behaviors, what do you feel still causes us to panic unnecessarily about our babies today?
Nicholas Day: The lesson from all this is that maybe, just maybe, we should calm down. For a lot of the past, parents have freaked out about things that turned to be worth exactly—let’s do the math here—zero. Of course, we can’t see ourselves clearly—it is only parents years from now who will be able to look back and say, “They were worrying about that”?In Baby Meets World there are a few things I suggest are really not worth worrying about. Here’s an example: crawling.
About a hundred years after the psychologist Arnold Gesell enshrined crawling as a Key Development Step, it remains there—if your child never crawled, or isn’t crawling, I promise you that eventually someone at the playground will tell you that this is a problem. It isn’t. There’s historical and cross-cultural evidence. For many years, and even today in many places, parents discouraged crawling, or made it effectively impossible (they picked up infants who crawled, they dressed them in cumbersome clothing).
And then there’s scientific evidence (or lack thereof). There simply are no studies that link not crawling to any sort of future developmental problems. Many people will tell you, vaguely, that crawling knits together the hemispheres of the brain, or that it forges crucial neural linkages. But there’s simply no evidence to support this. Children move from slithering helplessly on the floor to walking—to jumping, to skipping—in a whole wondrous variety of ways. Crawling is the most popular route, but it is by no means the only path to take. Scooting, slithering, log-rolling, bear-crawling, all these work too, and without any lifelong consequences. So relax. And relish how wonderful—how hysterical—that commando crawl is.
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Enjoy those precious newborns and until next time…happy parenting!