5 Ways to Say "Yes" to Your Kids
Mighty Mommy is going to share 5 ways you can become a “yes” mom/dad in your daily life as a parent while not crossing the line when you really do have to say “no”.
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Tip #4: Say “Yes” With Conditions
If you don't want to always say no, try saying "yes" with conditions.
For example, if your middle schooler asks if she can go to the movies, even though it’s a school night, you can say “Yes, as long as I see that your homework is complete and you've put your clean laundry away.”
That’s a far more positive way to respond than, “You never get your homework done on time or help out around the house so the answer is 'no'."
Tip #5: Saying “Yes” to Teens
Tweens and teens definitely test the waters of authority, yet they need room to grow and learn responsibility at this age more than ever. That's why finding ways to empower them can really contribute towards building their self-esteem and teaching them to be accountable for their actions.
One way to respond to a request from your teen that has left you truly undecided is to say you’re not sure. For example, let's say you pay your son an allowance for mowing the grass each week and he blows through the money quickly. Then the weekend rolls around and he has nothing left for activities with friends, like going out for pizza or to a concert. He comes to you for some more pocket money. What do you do?
Well, instead of saying “No way! You’re irresponsible with your money," tell him you’re not sure if you can lend him more money unless he offers up some concrete solutions as to how he can manage his allowance better. This puts the onus on him to come up with a good financial strategy.
Another response instead of yelping a quick “no” is to say “I would love to, however..." This is a good way of saying "no" when you really can’t say "yes." For example, my 17-year-old son just got his driver's license and is asking to borrow the car frequently. He wanted to go to a football game with his friend but I had an appointment to have my hair cut at the same time. Instead of telling him “No, I need the car," I asked him to see if he could figure out a way to work around my appointment so he could still borrow it. I put the emphasis for finding a solution back on him and he happily dropped me off at my hair appointment and made arrangements with my daughter to come pick me up!
Do you have variations of how to say “yes” more often in your home? Share your thoughts in the comment section or post your ideas on the Mighty Mommy Facebook page. You can also connect with me on Twitter @MightyMommy or e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Visit my family-friendly boards at Pinterest.com/MightyMommyQDT.
Parenting is not always easy, but when you focus on the positives instead of sticking with your "no" habit, you just might see a much more content household. Keep smiling and until next time-----Happy Parenting!