8 Best Kept Motherhood Secrets
Sure motherhood is dreamy and wonderful, but it’s also challenging and exhausting. Mighty Mommy has 8 motherhood secrets that your friends and family may have forgotten to warn you about.
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Secret #2: Breastfeeding Is Not as Easy as it Looks
I couldn’t breastfeed our adopted baby, so I was very excited to have that quintessential bonding moment with my son. How hard could it be, right? Turns out, very. It was not only painful, but also awkward and draining. I soon gave up and bottle fed him. No matter what you choose to do, don’t get down on yourself. To breastfeed or not is a personal choice and you shouldn’t let anyone else influence you.
Secret #3: Your Friendships May Take a Back Seat
Those carefree days of simply grabbing your bag and heading out the door to go shopping with your friends will be long gone once your baby arrives. I’m a very social person, so being homebound for most of the time was a major adjustment. Newborns, toddlers, and all children in general give new meaning to the word tired. That’s why it’s tempting to just become a hermit and let your friendships fall by the wayside. But one of the best remedies for getting reenergized and feeling more like yourself is staying connected with other adults. Even if it’s only a phone call or a 30-minute visit—it can do you a world of good.
Secret #4: You Will be Judged
It’s human nature for others to form opinions about how you are doing as a parent—and in many cases this judgment can come from your own family. You can’t change what other people say, do, or think, but you can control how you respond to them. If you have an overzealous friend or family member who likes to give advice, pick and choose what works for you and your family and disregard the rest.
And most importantly: Don’t get into the habit of comparing yourself to other parents or your child to other children. You’ll wind up judging yourself!
Secret #5: Small Baby = Big Mess
Babies may be small but they come with a lot of stuff. Between all the diapers, bottles, onesies, blankets, night gowns, cradles, play pens, bouncy chairs, portable bath tubs (just to name a few), your once organized household will temporarily (or perhaps permanently) become a chaotic mess. If you simply cannot function without things being neat and orderly, then use your energy wisely to keep up with maintaining your house until you get into a better routine. But if you can let go of the idea that your home must be company-ready at all times, you will be a much happier parent.
See also: How Routines Will Simplify Your Life