When it comes to vacuuming, the kids are willing to help me out if I promise to let them push the vacuum. This usually convinces them to pick up the toys that are in the way. We do have a small, toy vacuum as well that they can push around while I vacuum, but my daughter is big enough to help me push now. When they aren’t pushing, I let them guide me around the room and tell me what spots I’ve missed. It’s always fun when they get to tell Mommy what to do for a change. After your children help you with a task, make sure you thank them and let them know how much you appreciate their help.
If there are some things you need to get done around the house that you actually need to do on your own, such as paying bills or cleaning the bathroom, don’t feel bad if you let your kids watch some TV or a video. If your children are old enough, you can let them earn time to watch TV or play video games. You would want to create the rules based on your own feelings about how much time should be spent doing certain things. For example, if your daughter wants to earn video game time and your limit is one hour per day, you may want to offer her thirty minutes of play time in exchange for fifteen minutes of help around the house. You could also use the exchange system based on specific household duties. Give her four different jobs you want done and let her earn fifteen minutes for each completed job. I’m sure you get the idea. The best part of this system is that not only do you get some help, but then you get some additional time in which you can get things done while your child is occupied with the time she’s earned.
[[AdMiddle]Finally, if all else fails and your little ones don’t want to help, but are very demanding of your attention and you just can’t get anything done, just stop. Spend some time with your kids. Give them ten minutes of your time. Give them more if you can! Just spend some one-on-one, or in my case one-on-two, quality time just playing, reading, or even just talking with your kids. Not only will this refresh and calm everyone, it will also let your kids know you are still there for them when they need and want you. If you give some direct time and attention to your children, they are more likely to give you some space to get things done. Let your kids check in with you. You may not realize just how much you’ve been doing and you probably need a break anyway. Most household chores aren’t going to go away after you do them once and I promise, the dishes in the sink will still be there an hour from now just waiting to be washed, and they’ll be much more patient about waiting for you than your kids will.
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