All Dressed Up (or Not?)

You're all dressed up and feeling great…until you get to the party and realize that you missed the memo on the proper attire. Have no fear! You can still pull off a great look with Modern Manners Guy’s 3 quick and dirty tips for being improperly dressed for an event.

Richie Frieman,
February 17, 2013
Episode #238

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Allow me to paint a picture for you: You have an event tonight, you lay your clothes out, take a long shower, do you hair, and walk out of the house feeling like a million bucks! You arrive at the event expecting people to be blown away by how great you look, only to realize you are either over or under dressed for the occasion. Then, the only thing that pretty red dress matches is your cheeks, as you blush in embarrassment. This is not just a ladies' thing though, my fellow gents and I have found ourselves (on more than one occasion) arriving to an event feeling like we totally missed the memo on proper attire.

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When you realize you stand out more than the 25-foot-tall ice sculpture in the middle of the event space, you basically want to run and hide. However, this should not be the case, if you properly evaluate the situation at hand, get creative, and twist your fate around into a fabulous evening. Call it mind over matter (if you don't mind, it doesn't matter) but improperly dressing for an event does not have to be the end of your social life. So with that, check out my top 3 Quick and Dirty Tips for how to handle being improperly dressed for an event:

Tip #1: Take a Tip from the Grammys

The Grammy Awards recently celebrated the who's who of the music world. And although many people in attendance hardly count as true "musicians," it was still a fun collection of music industry folks, many of whom have their own unique sense of style. And style is what really makes award shows memorable. Lady Gaga's meat dress comes to mind. In spite of the dress code imposed upon Grammy attendees this year (thanks CBS!), the stars wear what they want to wear (within reason that is). I can't help but admire people who spent their entire life waiting to go to the Grammys, only to wear a trucker hat and ripped jeans. It's an impressive display of ego that us regular folks can learn a lot from about how we approach dressing for our events.

Bottom line: Whatever event you’re going to, you have to own the moment and not be afraid to feel comfortable in your own skin…within reason. If you go to a black tie wedding and decide to wear your old fraternity t-shirt, that's absurd (not to mention totally rude to the bride and groom).

It reminds me of a quote from the great Dr. Seuss:

"Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You."

When you go to an event, you don't want to wear something that will have you itching, twitching, and fixing all night. That will not only ruin your time, but make you uncomfortable to be around. I once wore a dress shirt that had such a tight neck, I felt like I was being strangled the entire night. Even when I unbuttoned the top button to loosen it up, it still bothered me. Had I just worn something more comfortable that fit my style, rather than what I thought was in, I would have had a much better time. I was too worried about looking great than feeling great. I should have just embraced my own style (which I will say is not too shabby) and worn a much more properly-fitting shirt. Instead, I went for what was trendy and suffered because of it.


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