Bro Code Etiquette

Boys will be boys, but there is a solid foundation to the Bro Code that every man must adhere to in order to be a proper friend for life. So if you’ve ever wondered why some guys keep that one goofy friend around forever, check out Modern Manners Guy’s 3 tips for proper Bro Code etiquette.

Richie Frieman,
May 26, 2013
Episode #249

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In the episode, How to Deal with a Groomonster? I brought up the concept of the Bro Code. As I wrote that episode, it made me think of the rules pertaining to the Bro Code and how some men value it, while others take advantage of the age-old bond.

But ladies, don’t think I’m leaving you out. The Bro Code is very similar to how females keep true to one another as well…our ways are just a bit funkier. As well, the Bro Code is a good lesson and insight into the male mind. For example, why do we still have that one friend who is a complete nut, yet we can’t let him go? Just bear with me.

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I’m not sure about the origin of the Bro Code, or who even coined the phrase, but thanks to movies like Superbad and The Hangover, as well as the now epic character of Barney Stinson from the TV show, “How I Met Your Mother,” the Bro Code has taken center stage. However, I feel it needs to be further examined to outline the etiquette of the Bro Code and ensure that all bros out there understand what it means to be a friend. In short, trust in the code! 

So before you chest bump, high five, throw some beers back, or partake in any other male stereotype, check out my top 3 Quick and Dirty Tips for proper Bro Code etiquette.

Tip #1: Honor the Code

As I said in my episode on How to Deal with a Groomonster? the Bro Code is a bond between guys that can be summed up as, “Don’t disrespect your fellow man in any way and always be there for them when they need you.” The code is like a tree consisting of long branches covering an array of life topics such as relationships, friendships, money, and others. You don’t have to verbally accept the code to embrace it, either. It isn’t recited aloud by teenage boys in some secret locker-room in gym class or anything.  It’s just understood. Whether you’re 15 or 85, the Bro Code (aka, “Honor thy bro”) is something that all mannerly men abide by.

Unfortunately, some guys take advantage of the Bro Code and use it for selfish reasons.  Some bros even forget the core values of friendship when a possible mate comes into play.

Rule #1 in the Bro Code is never let a love interest affect your friendship. This should also be the core value of any friendship for men and women. I understand that it’s possible for two friends to have feelings for the same person, but it’s highly unmannerly to put some random person you meet in a bar or at a party above the bond between two friends. What that says is, “We’re friends… but so-and-so is super hot, so…” After that “So” could be any number of improper statements like, “So-and-so is mine, back off…” or “Look, so-and-so clearly likes me better!” or “Maybe we aren’t friends if you steal so-and-so from me.”

In all situations, when two friends let a love interest (or tonight’s love interest) get in the way of friendship, that is an ultimate violation of the Bro Code. If two bros truly have feelings for the same person, or if one wants to date someone who the other has been with before, then the two of them need to sit down and have a heart to heart. And yes, men can have heart to hearts. They may not use the word “heart” but they do have one. In the end, you have to be open and honest with how intense your feelings are and then decide who can/should pursue the bar hottie. Once that’s established, the other bro must step aside. No hard feelings.


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