Did a Guest Bail on Your Wedding? Here's What NOT to Do
The Internet has blown up with a story about two guests who missed a wedding and promptly recieved a bill from the bride and groom.
Although a wedding should be the happiest day of someone’s life, these events sometimes bring out the most bizarre behavior in people. From Bridezillas to Groom monsters and of course the “great debate” about the guest list, weddings can be more of a hassle than a celebration.
Case in point: a Minnesota couple made headlines this week when the bride billed two guests who had RSVP’d yes and did not attend last minute—for the price of their meal. In fact, the exact bill was for $75.90, the cost of two $30 Herb Crusted Walleye” entrees as well as a “Service & Tax Charge.” That’s right, the bride added on the service and tax, too, because, well why not? Once you go down the rabbit hole of unmannerly behavior, why stop at only slight embarrassment?
This article reminded me of many reader emails about improper wedding behavior. I'm always shocked to hear the allegations. But in this situation, the behavior of both parties is a little off to say the least. Hands-down, the winner of "Who's ruder?" content goes to the bride and groom. They surely take the cake (no pun intended), yet the guests are not totally innocent. For starters, there is no reason with today’s technology for anyone to claim they didn’t have time, or a way, to get in touch with someone even at the last minute. Letting people know you can’t attend a party after you already committed is the only proper thing to do. Even if you have a good reason (as this couple did: a sick child), no one should question it. So here’s one knock against the guest for bailing out.
However, when you plan a wedding, you take the risks/costs associated with anything that may come your way. And if a guest doesn't show up and you're stuck with their "bill," well, that's part of the risk of throwing a wedding. There is no proper way to bill someone for their meal. In fact, it goes against all mannerly logic to think it's acceptable to act this way. The bride and groom's actions only make the them look angry, petty, and spiteful. Yes they should be upset, but to bill someone for a $75 meal? Come on, where's the class in that?
A proper response should have been a phone call from the bride to the guest, asking them why they didn't attend and expressing their negative feelings. If the bride wanted to say that it does cost a lot for a wedding and they essentially “wasted” a meal (re: money) by skipping out last minute, then that is fine. After all, you're allowed to be upset at someone for missing a wedding when they said they’d be there. However, the issue was instead handled very poorly.
Yet one key thing to point out in this article is that the guest said they didn't want to reveal the identities of the bride and groom? You can kiss that plan goodbye, considering your gripe has just become national news.
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