Do You Have Bad Body Language?
Bad body language comes in many forms and affects people of all ages - and it's a turn-off 100% of the time. So before you showcase your negative habits, check out Modern Manners Guy's top 3 tips on how to spot (and fix) bad body language.
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I’m no doctor, but I do have a doctorate in diagnosing annoying habits and bad manners.
I like to give people the benefit of the doubt in cases where innocent manners faux pas occur (like forgetting to hold the door for someone), but there is a line that gets crossed where my “unmannerly meter” goes off the charts. I’m talking about bad body language. Boy oh boy, is that a big time turn off!
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Unmannerly things like checking your phone while someone is talking (very rude), overly pouting (give me a break) or sidebar conversations (insanely rude!) -- are just a few negative body language practices that will derail the conversation faster than saying, “I really think Sharknado was snubbed at the Emmys.”
Improper body language comes in many forms, and affects people of all ages…and it has to stop. So, before you showcase your negative habits and infect others around you with a heavy dose of immaturity, check out my top 3 quick and dirty tips on bad body language:
Bad Body Language #1: Pouting and Scowling
"Every party has a pooper and that’s why we invited you!"
I think about that little song every time I’m with someone sitting with their arms crossed, a sour look on their face. Pouting and scowling is by far the most immature of all bad body language habits because you’re essentially making an effort to show everyone you’re miserable.
"But I don’t want to talk about it right now!” Good, then go home. Being mad is one thing, we all have bad days, but don’t bring us down with you. When you pout and scowl, you are doing it to be noticed. You want the world to know, “I’m pissed off and I am here to ruin your day!” Even if that's not your intention, it's exactly what you’re doing.
Here’s the deal, Mr. or Mrs. Pouter and Scowler: We can all see your eye rolls, your flared nostrils, your crossed arms, and your deep sighs.
The worst part is that the Pouter and Scowler won’t tell you what’s wrong. They’ll just sit there, mad at the world, and wave off your questions. When you scowl and pout to the point where others can easily notice, it makes everyone in the room focus on you and wonder what is up. This is highly immature behavior perfect for a preschool, but not for the grown-up world.
If you're upset and want to pout, go right ahead…but do it on your own time. While you're around others, save the drama and fake happiness until you can sit in your office and sulk to your heart's content.