Get-It-Done Guy has tips to align your efforts behind your big goals when you’re not getting the results you want.
If you’re like me, you so often want to do huge, great things, like end world hunger, fly to the moon, or wrap the Eiffel Tower in toilet paper as a subversive statement aimed at overthrowing the status quo. But then, you don’t actually do it. And it’s not because of the security guards. It’s because of…something else. When you find yourself not stepping up to do the great things you have in mind, it’s because you haven’t aligned everything you have behind your awesome, amazing goal.
See also: How to Set the Right Goals
When I was a wee lad of just 23 or 24 years old, a man named Joe Yeager taught me an elegant way to align myself behind my goals. In order to do it, though, you need a goal. Think of a goal you haven’t been making progress on, but want to. Got one? Good. Keep it in mind as we go through this episode..
You Need Raw Desire
They say you can’t always get what you want, and it’s true, but only because you aren’t a Kardashian. It’s also true that you won’t ever get what you don’t want.
In order to reach your goal, you need to want it. But it’s easy to fool yourself into thinking you want something you really don’t. A coaching client wanted to start a world-changing social enterprise. We delved into preparations! Somehow, he kept dragging his feet. There was always a reason why he couldn’t quite start on the actions we’d outlined. “Next week, I’ll do it for sure!” he proclaimed. It never happened.
He always had a different excuse, but he always had some excuse. Being a good coach, I called him on it and he faced up to the truth: He really likes his high-paying, cushy job. He likes the city, the salary, and the status. He doesn’t want to start the non-profit enough to leave his comfy situation.
And that’s fine! Better to know up front than to work for months and self-sabotage because he’s denying his real desire, which is to have a fun, comfortable life with his family, and the fantasy of running a world-changing social enterprise. We can find other ways for him to contribute to the world that will let him keep his day job.