How to overcome speakers’ anxiety.
The brain is a wonderful thing. It never stops working from the time you are born, until the moment you stand-up to give a speech. I wish I could take credit for that, but actually it’s from Robert Frost. Coming up, in the first of a two-part episode you’ll learn proven and practical techniques to overcome speaker’s anxiety.
The Other Lisa B. Marshall
Very recently, I got an email from Lisa B. Marshall. I didn’t send email to myself…this was ANOTHER Lisa B. Marshall. Since we shared the same name, she was curious to learn about my life (and my middle initial)—I told her about my work, and of course, about this podcast. Surprisingly, she listened to the podcasts and then wrote again with a question. Here’s what she wrote:
"I remember the day my boss first told me I had to facilitate a meeting. I panicked even though it was a month away and had flashbacks of high school, the day I had to deliver a mandatory 10 minute speech for Honors English.
I remember my name being called, walking up the aisle between the desks to the front of the classroom, tripping on someone’s school bag and falling on my face in front of the entire class. I remembered the eruption of laughter, my heart pounding, my face burning. The teacher asked if I was OK and said go ahead and give your speech. I wanted to run out of the room. It was the longest 10 minutes of my life.
What I didn't know at the time was how that experience was going to be a part of my conditioning for the rest of my life. And that fateful day my boss dropped the bombshell; it was like that day all over again. I was so wrapped up in my fear I couldn't function. I went to my doctor and he prescribed Valium. He said to take one the evening before and the morning of the presentation. I thought to myself, “Do I really want to be tranquilized on Valium, at my job, in front of my peers? Will this really help?”
I decided not to take them. I just forced all the fear and negative thoughts out of my head. I refused to listen to that little voice in my head that kept saying, "You're going to make a fool of yourself". I knew in doing this I was psyching myself out.
I just pasted a smile on my face that morning and faked my way through the presentation like it was an acting job. And it turned out OK. I still feel extremely uneasy when I have to talk in front of a group
Have you ever thought about doing a podcast about fear, the inner voice, and calming nerves?"
Everyone Experiences Nervous Energy
How to overcome speaker’s anxiety is probably the single most common question I get. In fact, I was ready to do a show on this because my inbox was full of questions just like yours.
In some of the emails the fear of speaking publicly is debilitating. People avoid making presentations, attending meetings, or even going to dinner parties. Others mention physical responses: turning red, a shaky voice, feeling sick. For others it’s just a mild sensation of nervous energy, a dry mouth or maybe a faster pulse.
In my experience, it is rare is for someone NOT to feel some nervous energy.
So, the first and perhaps most important tip from today’s podcast is to recognize that almost EVERYONE, when presenting themselves publicly, experiences some anxiety or nervous energy. It’s normal.
Even me. I’ve been a professional speaker for over 15 years, and still there are occasions that I get extremely nervous. About six months ago, I was asked to deliver a talk at Johns Hopkins hospital to a group of senior physicians. It was in one of those large (and intimidating) surgical theater halls like you see in that famous Eakins’ painting, The Gross Clinic. In the months leading up to the talk, my heart would race just thinking about it.
Some researchers think this response--fight or flight--dates back to our prehistoric days. None of us want to be separated from our tribe, singled out, standing alone, to be potentially attacked by a Bengal tiger. Of course, today, it’s not a tiger that’s the problem.
Welcome and Embrace Nervous Energy – It’s a Good Thing!
Whether we are about to be attacked by a tiger, or about to deliver a speech the brain perceives physical or psychological stress. Instantly, it starts pumping chemicals through your body. Your heart beats faster. Your blood pressure increases. Your senses sharpen.
Having this response is a GOOD thing. Extra nervous energy helps us. Research suggests it can help you perform tasks more efficiently and can improve memory. Good stress is something we want. Good stress stimulates us.
For me it’s exactly that anxiety that pushes me. I want to be sure I don’t look stupid, so I spend extra time preparing and practicing. So, my second tip today, is welcome and embrace nervous energy… don’t fight it. Use the energy to show your passion. Use the energy for a stronger voice and varied inflection. Use the energy to move around the room. Use the energy to encourage interaction.
Here’s a secret…great speaking performance requires nervous energy.
But I’ve been teaching this long enough to know that most people need tools to help them ratchet down anxiety. And in part two we’ll cover several techniques that can help you convert negative nervous energy into positive energy.
Coaching Is Most Effective Way To Reduce Anxiety
Today, I’d like to share the single most effective way to reduce speaker’s anxiety.
Nope, it’s not imaging your audience in their underwear. (That’s just dumb.) It’s not deep breathing and it’s not practice (which is what most people think). Turns out that the best way to reduce speaker’s anxiety is to receive coaching from a communication professional.
It’s like when my father taught me how to ride a bicycle. He told me what I was doing right. He told me exactly what I needed to do differently. He provided motivation and encouragement that helped me to overcome my fear of falling. A good communication skills coach can do the same thing when it comes to the fear of speaking publicly.
So, if presenting yourself publicly is something that causes you anxiety it is very important to keep in mind it’s normal. It’s expected. Everyone feels it and it doesn’t have to have a negative impact. It can be positive. If this is something you really struggle with, consider taking a class or hiring a private coach. But please wait until next week, after you’ve listened to part two. I promise to cover several more proven and effective techniques that you can use to overcome speech anxiety.
This is Lisa B. Marshall, passionate about communication, your success is my business.
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