Your behavior—good manners—are more important than your residence, at least that's the implication of the phrase "to the manner born," which describes someone of high stature.
Shakespeare coined the phrase “the manner born” (as in “mind your manners” and “table manners”) to describe someone born into a high position or who was accustomed to privilege from birth. Hamlet first uttered the line as he disdains the king’s loud and drunken partying:
Though I am native here
And to the manner born, it is a custom
More honored in the breach than the observance.
In other words, even though I am from this land, and I know it’s the custom to party, I wish we wouldn’t honor that custom.
Some people mistakenly describe the rich as “manor born,” and a BBC TV show played on words to come up with the title “To the Manor Born,” which likely contributed to the confusion.
They did get the phrasing right though. Although our tendency today might be to say someone is “manner born,” it nearly always appears as “to the manner born,” as Shakespeare wrote it.
For example, here’s a line from a biography of a woman named Miss Florence Searing published in 1897:
She was so pretty and so evidently to the manner born that society people were pleased to have her appear as an ornamental adjunct to their entertainments.
If you use this phrase, which seemed to be more popular in the late 1800s, think of Shakespeare’s rude and rowdy king with his bad manners to remind yourself of the proper spelling.
Most television viewers probably believe that courtly Mr. Welch is a proper Bostonian, to the manner born. Actually he is the perfect example of how the legal profession in the U.S. has served as a ladder for the children of humble families.
—Life, May 17, 1954
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Architectural Digest, June 25, 2018
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