There’s never been a better time to be an introvert. But sometimes introverts miss the mark, push introversion too far, and end up feeling isolated. This week, author and self-described professional introvert Sophia Dembling talks about the ways we get introversion wrong and how to get it right.
The introvert revolution has been empowering and validating to millions of quiet souls. We feel comfortable expressing our need to recharge. We respect our own preference for fewer but deeper connections. But sometimes, introverts miss the mark. We learn the hard way that if we repeatedly turn down invitations, people stop asking. We find ourselves isolated rather than in blissful solitude. Therefore, this week, author and self-described professional introvert Sophia Dembling helps us right the course.
Sophia Dembling is a writer in Dallas, Texas. Sophia is the author of The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World and Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After and writes the excellent Introvert’s Corner blog for Psychology Today. Sophia is also author of 100 Places in the USA Every Woman Should Go, and The Yankee Chick's Survival Guide to Texas. You can find her at Sophia Dembling--Professional Introvert on Facebook, or follow her on Twitter @SophiaDembling.
I recently sat down with Sophia Dembling to discuss the most common ways introverts drift off course and how to make introversion work for you. Listen in to our discussion you will learn:
- How we accidentally create a “shell of introversion” and how to break out.
- Why the vibe of “I’m an introvert; therefore, leave me alone” is problematic.
- The line between solitude and loneliness.
- Why introversion is more of a seesaw than a steady state.
- The two most common mistakes introverts make in the workplace.
- How to be a great team player as an introvert.
- Why being “an introvert” is different than being “introverted.”
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