Finding time for yourself after you become a new mom can seem near impossible. Mighty Mommy shares five ways to squeeze in a few minutes of some much needed alone time now as a brand new parent and for years to come.
Tip #4: Get Reaquainted with Story Time
Whether you’re the parent of a newborn or college kids, there is always something new to learn in the world of parenting. Head over to the library or your favorite bookstore and select a great read that can help you learn some new parenting concepts. And if you’re like me and just don’t have as much time to read as you like, many choices are available as audiobooks on Audible.com. Two of my favorite parenting titles are The 5 Love Languages of Children written by Gary Chapman and The Blessing of a B Minus by Dr. Wendy Mogel. Get into the habit now of stashing a book in the car to dip into during those car pool moments or for when you just need a quick escape from the laundry and dishes and have to cruise out to the store while your baby is sound asleep. You can spend an easy 15 or so minutes enjoying your favorite read which can easily re-energize you so that you can take on the rest of the day with ease. Check out audible.com for the latest new titles.
Tip #5: Have Grown Up Play Dates
My biggest regret when I first became a new mom was thinking I was way too tired or busy caring for my baby to stay connected with my girlfriends. With today’s hectic lifestyles, it seems that our friendships are often placed on the backburner. But what many of us fail to acknowledge is that a friendship can help you handle the best and worst of life, causing a reduction in the amount of stress and isolation you feel on a daily basis.
When you do have a little more time, pick up the phone and give that friend you haven’t talked to in ages an old-fashioned telephone call. (Retro, I know!) Just hearing one another’s voices can lift you both 10 feet off the ground if you’re feeling a little low or are stuck in a rut. Don’t wait for a major reason, like someone’s 40th birthday bash or finally getting your child toilet trained, to head on out for a special celebration. Grab your calendars and pick a date this month to celebrate your friendship. Find a good flick that’s playing at the theater or organize a game night, complete with snowflake martinis during the winter. Or have a potluck dessert bar and just sit on the couch with your coziest sweats and eat, drink, and be merry. My friends and I do this at least once every couple of months and if some of our group can’t join us, we shoot some video of ourselves and send it to them via Facebook. This lets them know we’re thinking of them and wish they could join us, but also that there will definitely be a next time.
Friendships offer a strong source of support and comfort to busy moms. They can help boost self-esteem and good spirits, and they provide a much-needed distraction from daily chores and family responsibilities. So don’t let your friendships go by the wayside.
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