4 Essential Rules for a Happy Home
Domestic CEO Amanda Thomas shares four essential rules for a happy home.
If you’ve been following me for a while, you know that the last 5 years have brought a number of major changes in my life. I’ve gone from being a (fairly) newlywed, lived in a big home, hosted a bunch of people from all over the world in our home through AirBNB, move out of our house, lived in an RV for 9 months while traveling the southern United States, been pregnant while living on the road, become a mom, moved in to a small apartment, and doubled my business, Moxie Girl, all while writing blogs and podcasts to help you love your home.
With all the changes that have happened, it’s been a balancing act to say the least. And now, I’ve realized it’s time to retire as Domestic CEO and focus on my family and business.
As I’ve been thinking about all the tips I’ve given over the years, I was struggling to decide what to talk about on my last post. I’ve talked about how to clean your home using natural products like vinegar, baking soda, and lemons. I’ve talked about how to organize closets and other rooms. I’ve talked about how to decorate bookcases, and how to hang picture collages. And I’ve talked about how to host almost any type of event in your home. So what would be worthy of talking about on my very last episode?
I finally realized that the last advice I could give you is how to be happy in your home, because that’s what this entire journey has been about. While I may have talked about how to clean, organize, decorate, and host in your home, the whole reason is to help others enjoy the time they spend in their homes. After all, with the amount of time we spend in our homes, we should enjoy it, right?
So here, in no particular order, are the “rules” we live by to be happy in our home.
Have a Routine, But Don’t Be Afraid to Break It
I’ve talked a number of times about how routines can help in the home. A cleaning routine helps make sure that your home is always company-ready. A meal planning routine can help you save money as well as take the stress out of the nightly dinner routine. There’s something magical that happens when you have established routines. Your brain can go on autopilot while your body completes the tasks, so things can take much less time and be less intimidating to complete.
As many good things that can come from a routine, there are times to completely throw it out the window. First, if it’s causing you stress to keep up with your routine, it’s not serving its purpose. If you’re missing out on important family experiences with your family to clean the kitchen, put down the sponge and hang out with your kids. Routines around your home should help you have MORE time to spend with your family and friends, so if you feel like you’re stuck in a housework routine you may want to reevaluate and refocus your time to make sure that you are happy with how you spend your time.
The next rule is to communicate. I know as well as anyone that things can get harried when you’ve lived with a person for a while, and I’m now six months in to getting a taste of adding parenthood on top of all the other responsibilities we have. Getting along with your significant other isn’t always easy, and many times the little things that drive you nuts about the important people in your life are the things that really start to cause big issues.
Instead of holding things in and expecting your significant other to be able to read your mind, or nagging and expecting the others in your life to not get irritated with you, find a way to communicate. And I mean REALLY communicate. Relationships are a journey, and sometimes you need to try something completely new or ask for help to get through an issue. Don’t be too proud to talk with a professional if you feel like you aren’t communicating well. Communication is one of the most important things in a home, so do everything in your power to maintain it. If you don’t want to grow apart, you have to grow together.