4 Mindful Ways to Discipline Your Child

The next time your kids are misbehaving and giving you a hard time, try putting a mindful spin on the situation. Mighty Mommy shares four ways to get mindful with your discipline.


Cheryl Butler
6-minute read
Episode #506

My recent podcast episode 5 Simple Mindfulness Habits for Better Parenting caused quite a stir. Dozens of parents reached out with thoughtful comments and questions about this hot topic.

After 25 years of parenting, it even gave me cause to stop and ponder about how life-changing this mindset can truly be in every area of one’s parenting life, but particularly when it comes to the way we discipline our children.

As stated in that episode, I equated mindful parenting to going back to basics with everything you do for your family. “Remove all the bells and whistles of today’s non-stop lifestyle and just enjoy whatever you and your children are doing at that very moment.”

As simplistic as that sounds, we all know that our crazy, overscheduled lifestyles don’t necessarily make living in the moment very easy. That’s why the term mindful is key to changing how we rush through life, going from trying to keep our heads above water to instead learning to float on top of the wave and enjoy the ride.

I’ve been living a mindful lifestyle with my family for many years now, even before it became the popular mentality that is trending today. In fact, I’d say it’s been one of the key items in my parenting tool box.

Examples of mindful parenting to me are:

  • Waking up and celebrating my teen daughter’s great hair day with her rather than being preoccupied with my overflowing inbox of emails.
  • Not running around the house chasing all the fluffy dust bunnies left by our adorable Golden Retriever puppy but instead observing how loved she is by all my kids.
  • Even listening in appreciation to the quiet whir of our dryer while waiting for a load of towels to dry (we were without one for nearly a month this past summer—I’ll never take this appliance for granted again!) rather than griping to my family that the majority of my precious life is spent washing their clothes.

Get the picture? By shifting your conscious thoughts to what is happening in the present rather than zoning out about your daily to-do list or being swept up in events that might be happening weeks away, you’ll start to appreciate life much differently.

When practiced routinely, living a mindful lifestyle can help us focus on the many positives that surround our family on a daily basis. And as we'll discuss today, it’s also beneficial when things aren’t going so well and you need to course correct your child’s negative behaviors.

The next time your kids are misbehaving and giving you a hard time, try putting a mindful spin on the situation. Mighty Mommy shares four ways to get mindful with your discipline.

4 Mindful Ways to Discipline

  1. Bond When Things Are Good
  2. Create a Waterfall
  3. Tune In 
  4. Allow for Consistency

Here is a closer look at each.

1. Bond When Things Are Good

As just stated, when you begin to practice a mindful way of life with your kids, you learn to appreciate the everyday, simple things that are the core foundation of your child’s happiness. Whether that is relishing those late afternoon moments when your son finishes his homework and gets to lounge on the couch playing his favorite video game or taking your daughter to the mall to try on a hundred bathing suits to wear to the beach this summer, you’re showing your child that you value him/her and their interests despite how busy your family life really is.


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About the Author

Cheryl Butler Project Parenthood

Cheryl L. Butler was the host of the Mighty Mommy podcast for nine years from 2012 to 2021. She is the mother of eight children. Her experiences with infertility, adoption, seven pregnancies, and raising children with developmental delays have helped her become a resource on the joys and challenges of parenting. You can reach her by email.