Family Time, Together Time

Don’t, however, just plan on sitting around looking at each other. That might get old fast.

Cherylyn Feierabend
4-minute read
Episode #163

When I was growing up my mom pretty much always cooked dinner for the entire family. There were five of us and every night we sat together at the dinner table and ate dinner and talked about our days. This is one of my favorite memories of my childhood. It’s a memory I wanted to create for my kids. Simply sitting down together as a family for a meal should be such an easy task, but in our busy lives, it’s not always possible. Sometimes we have to be creative in order to make sure we have family time. More importantly, we need to make sure we have quality family time.

Making the Time for Family Togetherness

It’s really easy to say, “Hey! We need to spend more time together.” The hard part is actually making the time. This is definitely something my family needs to work on. If I’m home, I may be watching the kids, working, or trying to catch some rest. If Daddy is home, well, he might be doing the same thing. We take turns which means that all of us are rarely just spending time together. Sometimes having everyone in the family together and available for family time is the rough part. We used to have to keep the kids up past their bedtime once a week just so all four of us could actually be in the same room at the same time. It was worth every minute of them missing a little sleep once a week. So, take a look at everyone’s schedules and find your time or times. If possible, schedule some time every day. Maybe some days will have 15 minutes and some days will have 2 hours. Whatever time you can find put it on the calendar and call it “family time.” Keep in mind that all families are different, so your family time needs to suit you and your family. 

Choosing Activities for Family Time

Once you have your time or times set up, be sure to keep these appointments.

Treat them just as you would any other appointment or date. Don’t, however, just plan on sitting around looking at each other. That might get old fast. Plan an activity that doesn’t get work or chores accomplished at the same time. This is a time for family togetherness. So play some board games, make some cookies, have a living room campout and watch a movie, read books together, or break out some coloring supplies. If the weather is nice, go outside and ride bikes, roller skate, toss a ball around, roast marshmallows or trace each other in chalk on the cement. The idea is to really do something together! If you have older kids, let them take turns choosing the next activity. If you have many ideas and nobody can decide, write them down and pop them in a hat. Choose at the end of each family time what the next activity will be. If you all enjoy doing projects, maybe you could have one week where every night you spend 20 minutes together working on a big puzzle. Be creative and be sure to talk, laugh, and have fun!


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