Sometimes we all need a little reminder when it comes to treating our friends with respect.
It is also good to remember that other parents have different rules about what is or is not allowed when it comes to behavior in their own home. If you are fine with letting your children put their shoes on your furniture, you still need to be respectful of other parents’ rules. If a parent requires that their child remove their shoes indoors, I’ve found that it’s better to avoid statements such as, “Oh, I don’t mind. It’s an old sofa.” The idea is that the other parent has rules and as a matter of principle, it’s best not to interfere. This allows them to be consistent with their parenting when visiting your home. If you are concerned about differing rules, you may want to discuss them prior to planning a play date in a private home.
If a child is left in your care for a play date, be sure to find out if there are any special instructions. You should never take someone’s child anywhere without a parent’s authorization. If you need to run to the store to buy more milk, be sure to call and find out if the child can come along or if the parent would prefer to have their child return home. You should never assume that your decision will be acceptable to the parent. If you are ever in doubt, it’s always best to ask. Other parents will appreciate it. I know I would.
[Finally, when you are having your grown-up time with other parents, remember that you should never criticize their children or child-rearing techniques. I don’t know about you, but I certainly don’t think I’m perfect, nor do I know everything there is to know. I’ve learned many wonderful things just by watching and listening to other parents. I’ve also had my own moments of self-proclaimed bad-parenting choices that were witnessed by other parents who were kind enough to let me learn from my own mistakes and gently remind me, that I’m still a good mom even if I felt like the worst at that very moment. It’s always better to support each other because we are all in this together, after all.
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