Potty Training 3 – Active Training

Your child is an individual and will train in his or her own time.

Cherylyn Feierabend
4-minute read
Episode #97

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A while back I talked about introducing your toddler to the potty. At that time, my daughter was fully potty trained and my son was still in diapers. It is now about 19 months later and my son is finally potty trained as well. Wait. Did I say finally? I didn’t mean to say that. He’s potty trained at just the right time. I’m sure plenty of other moms, specifically my older relatives, feel that it took too long. At least, that’s what they’ve told me. Well, I’m here to reassure you that your child is not required to use the toilet on anyone’s schedule other than his own. So, if you have friends, relatives, or even complete strangers gasping at the fact that your child is not yet potty trained at the ripe old age of two, three, or sometimes even four-years-old, don’t let them get you worked into a tizzy. Your child is an individual and will train in his or her own time. If you personally are concerned about your child’s progress, then speak to your pediatrician, not your in-laws, about what may or may not be normal.

I’ve heard people say that girls potty train faster than boys, but I’ve also heard it the other way around. Which one is right? Well, my son trained at an earlier age than my daughter, but does that mean the old wives tale is just wrong? I don’t know the statistics of which gender has successfully potty trained at an early age and I don’t think it matters. I think the most important parts of potty training are the following:

  1. Look for signs of readiness
  2. Introduce your child to the idea of using the potty
  3. Start training during a non-transitional time
  4. Be consistent
  5. Follow your child’s lead and
  6. Reward success


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Cherylyn Feierabend