How to Make Your Child Feel Special

With our busy lives and crazy schedules, it's easy to get wrapped up in work, school, and other logistics. Mighty Mommy has simple ways to make sure your child knows he's special. 

Cheryl Butler
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How to Make Your Child Feel Special

Life seems to get busier and busier, especially for parents.  It’s easy to get wrapped up with work, household duties, shuffling your kids back and forth to practices, and so on.  Unfortunately, when we get caught up in a chaotic lifestyle, it’s easy to forget the things we value and treasure most. One of these is taking the time to let our kids know how special they are to us.

Life doesn’t need to grind to a halt, but taking just a few moments out of your crazy schedule to regularly let your child know how much he or she means to you can make all the difference in their world. Here are 3 suggestions:

  • Tip #1: Send your child an invitation to spend some alone time with you. Whether she’s 5 or 15, send your child an invitation in the mail. Ask your younger child to have a picnic alone with you on her bedroom floor. For your teen, suggest going to the local coffee shop to just hang out and talk. 

  • Tip #2: Be enthusiastic when your child wants to talk about the dead frog he found on the playground. Get completely engaged with his take on it.  Instead of mumbling “Ewww, why would you want to see a dead frog?” Instead place yourself in his 7-year-old shoes and get excited with him by saying “Wow, cool! What did it look like?” Often our kids don’t want anything but our time and undivided attention, so make sure to give it to them as often as possible.

  • Tip #3: Dedicate ordinary days every year to each child.  Sure birthdays and holidays are special days, but everyone expects them to be. Let your kids know that you think they are pretty wonderful on ordinary days, too. Pick a few random days throughout the year to dedicate solely to them. You can do simple things like let them pick out their favorite meal for dinner, or let them spend the hours after dinner with you and your spouse doing an activity they enjoy, like riding bikes or heading to a playground you don’t normally go to.  It doesn’t have to be elaborate, it just has to be about them!

Remember: No matter how old your child is, he wants to know that you love him and are interested in him as an individual. When a child feels wanted and important, the possibilities for his future are endless.

 For more easy parenting tips, check out Mighty Mommy's archives.

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About the Author

Cheryl Butler Project Parenthood

Cheryl L. Butler was the host of the Mighty Mommy podcast for nine years from 2012 to 2021. She is the mother of eight children. Her experiences with infertility, adoption, seven pregnancies, and raising children with developmental delays have helped her become a resource on the joys and challenges of parenting. You can reach her by email.