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How to Brag About Your Kids Without Being Obnoxious

Next time your cherub does something newsworthy that you want to share with the rest of the world, keep Mighty Mommy’s six tips for bragging about your child in mind. That way, you can do so graciously, without being one of those obnoxious parents.

By
Cheryl Butler
6-minute read
Episode #333

#4 Don’t Try To Upstage Another Parent

As stated earlier about posting your child’s successes on social media, the way in which the “good news” is worded can make all the difference in how others perceive it. Don’t get me wrong, when one of my eight kids does something that I think is amazing or I really feel great about, I post it for all to see.  For example, when my child who has learning difficulties won the Spelling Bee against one of the smartest kids in his class, I posted his photo holding his winning certificate and stated, “Cameron beat the odds and rose to the occasion winning the Pier School Spelling Bee. He competed against some terrific spellers and spelling the word “etiquette” won him the honors." No sooner had this been posted another mom replied, “My son should’ve made it to the top ten, but he got some words that were much harder than etiquette.”  And then another posted, “Timmy won the Spelling Bee at his school last year and was in the final round for almost an hour.” It’s great that these other kids had their successes too, but let the parent who is having “their own moment” about their child enjoy the stage alone. Don’t try and upstage a parent’s brag by “one-upping” it in your replies.

#5:  Brag Sparingly and Include Other’s Kids

When something wonderful happens as a parent, you should be allowed to enjoy the moment and sound off to the rest of the world—like when your daughter gets into a great college on a scholarship… (woo hoo!), yet is it really necessary to recall all her straight A report cards from middle school on? When we toot our kid’s horns sparingly, people take more notice and are apt to want to celebrate along with us.

And don’t be afraid to brag about other kid’s accomplishments. Did your neighbor’s son hit the winning home run or your boss’s daughter have an essay published in your local newspaper? It’s nice to share these types of victories with others just like you do your own kids. 

#6:  Be Mindful of Those Who Are Quiet

When we’re gathered around with a group of friends and the conversation about all the amazing things our kids are doing is bouncing around like a fast game of tennis, it’s easy to overlook the fact that maybe one person in the group is sitting quietly, just fiddling with her fingers, anxiously waiting for the subject to turn. You know—when one of the moms is happy that her daughter aced the PSATs, the other’s son just got accepted into grad school, a third mom beams about her daughter’s new driver’s license? Consider that quiet mom. She loves her child as much as everyone here does, yet her child might secretly be dealing with depression, an eating disorder, or have a learning disability that will never allow him to do the same things as the rest of his peer group.  Draw her into the conversation with a question directed just to her—whether it be about her child or another matter altogether. Being mindful of others who might not be in the same “bragging ballpark” can be a tremendous gift to them.

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About the Author

Cheryl Butler

Cheryl L. Butler is the mother of eight children. Her experiences with infertility, adoption, seven pregnancies, and raising children with developmental delays have helped her become a resource on the joys and challenges of parenting. Call the Mighty Mommy listener line at 401-284-7575 to ask a parenting question. Your call could be featured on the show!