3 Tips for a Successful Home Move

Moving stinks, but don't let the stress get to you. Modern Manners Guy has 3 tips for how to move to a new home without losing your mind.

Richie Frieman
5-minute read
Episode #312

FACT: Moving stinks.

If you can argue this point with me, I would love to hear it. .

Last week, I moved my family into a new house and realized that there is nothing I dislike more than moving. Between the packing, unpacking, hooking things up, rearranging, repacking, cleaning, and looking for that one-frickin’-item-you-can’t-find, it’s all you can do to keep your sanity intact.

However, regardless of the stress levels that inevitably come with moving, we must remember that the pain is only temporary. So before you lift on three (or is it after three?) - wait, you said, ON three, like one-two-three and lift, right? 

Oh dear. 

Anyway, check out my top 3 Quick and Dirty Tips for a successful home move:

Tip #1: Hire Help

Prior to having a family and owning my home, I lived in small apartments that I rented with friends. That was a long time ago when I had a lot less stuff. It was just my bedroom and maybe a couch (maybe). It took all of half a day and that’s if I was stuck in traffic. I found a friend with a large car, we loaded up my stuff in trash bags (fancy, I know), and called it a day.  

But I’m a family man now with more stuff than I can wrap my brain around. So when my wife and I were planning for this move, we surveyed our house and realized that we can no longer enlist friends to help us out. We had to step up and call for reinforcements - professional reinforcements. Even though it was a sizeable expense, it was well worth it. 

When you’re just moving yourself, it’s OK to call on a friend to help you. But there comes a time when you have to grow up and realize that your friends are not hired employees – they are volunteers. So if you're moving a dining room table and a couch, go ahead and ask your pal Jim. He would be happy to help. But if you're moving multiple rooms with multiple people and their junk, well in that case, it would be rude to impose the task on friends.

When you hire professionals, they are paid to haul your stuff as fast as possible; your friends - not so much. The team I hired moved so quickly and efficiently, I felt like I was in an episode of The Twilight Zone where time suddenly sped up. I've never seen anything like it. Plus, if something broke, their insurance covered it. Try getting your pal Jim to pay you back for the lamp he knocked over while moving your stuff.  

So call in the pros and gather the friends afterwards to help you pick out decor - something easy, fun, and sweat-free. 

Tip #2: Don’t Lose Your Temper

When people find out I’m a manners and etiquette expert, they often assume I live in a charming bubble where I don’t get upset or flustered. As if I wake up in a three-piece suit, with doves and butterflies following me while I walk around whistling showtunes. 

Well, folks, this couldn’t be further from the truth. I’m human and I get frustrated too. And nothing can test my patience more than moving. I'd rather be stuck in an elevator with Ace of Base songs playing on repeat than move a house.  Moving is an activity that no matter how bad you try to control your emotions will ultimately make you miserable.  That's why the key to survival is to remember where the frustration is coming from and not to take it out on whoever happens to be nearby.

(SIDE NOTE: How many people have "I Saw The Sign" stuck in their heads right now? Tell me I'm not the only one.)

From finding and packing boxes, to renting a truck, to hiring movers, to changing your address everywhere, and getting cable installed, a moving to-do list is endless and can drive even the most patient person insane. And that's when the smallest thing can make you lose your temper. We've all been there: You’re packing the umpteenth box and you run out of tape but still have a thousand more boxes to go. Suddenly that missing tape is the most important thing in the world. You curse and scream, “Why is there not enough tape?!?! Who took the tape?!?!”