Moving stinks, but don't let the stress get to you. Modern Manners Guy has 3 tips for how to move to a new home without losing your mind.
Here’s the deal: Not one person in the history of mankind has ever said, “Wow, that move was so much fun! Let’s do it again tomorrow.” That's why I recommend making a frustration pact with your family members or housemates. This pact should involve everyone agreeing that when they get frustrated during the process, they won't direct the anger at each other. I’m actually giving cursing a pass on this occasion (just not in public or around kids). The only caveat is that you promise to curse the move, not the people involved.
When the pressure gets too much, step away, gather your breath...and go kick a box. Always remember the pact while you pack.
Tip #3: Take Breaks
One of the worst moves I ever experienced was when my brother and his roommate moved two truckloads of junk into a new apartment. Being a good brother, I agreed to help, joining a handful of other friends he enlisted.
Unfortunately his move ended up happening on the single hottest day of the year. It couldn't have been anymore miserable (unless Ace of Base was holding an outdoor concert nearby). We had to carry everything across a giant courtyard before we could even reach two staircases to his front door. And then there was an internal staircase leading into his room.
I was exhausted!
The only thing that kept us alive during the agony were frequent breaks. Yes, that made the process a bit slower, but in the end the extra hour or two that the breaks took up meant the difference between success and failure.
This is especially true if you're using a bunch of friends to help you move. Encouraging short breaks throughout the day shows kindness and respect. As I wrote in an earlier episode called How to Treat Friends Who Help You Move, it's your responsibility to provide plenty of drinks, snacks, and downtime to keep your crew happy. Would you like the process to move faster? Sure. But not at the cost of friendships. After all, if you behave like a slavedriver, you’ll quickly find yourself alone. And how will you manage that couch up the stairs then?
That's all for today. As always, if you have another manners question, I look forward to hearing from you at email@example.com. Follow me on Twitter @MannersQDT, and of course, check back next week for more Modern Manners Guy tips for a more polite life.
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