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Gift Giving Etiquette

Put the fun back into giving gifts.

By
Trent Armstrong,
Episode #107

Well, I think it's time we stopped worrying about our own feelings of frustration and inadequacy when handing over the gift receipt. Gift receipts are not evil. In fact, they are very thoughtful. Imagine your brother or mom standing in the return line trying to exchange their fancy new sweater for a fancy new sweater that fits a little better. He or she might be stuck with a lot of hassle trying to make the return without that receipt.

Gift receipts are not evil. In fact, they are very thoughtful.

Gifts are not about you! A gift should be something that makes the receiver happy-- something that conveys your feelings for them and not your feelings for yourself. Gifts are not about you! A gift should be something that makes the receiver happy-- something that conveys your feelings for them and not your feelings for yourself. The gift receipt is a way to say "I tried. But if I didn't get it quite right, here is a handy little do-over slip that will keep us on speaking terms."

How to Give a Thoughtful Gift

There will be times when you are expected to give a gift to someone. This person may be a boss, a coworker, or a daycare worker. These can be the most taxing gifts because most of us don't like to be told to give a gift to somebody. Plus, giving gifts should be an outpouring of the heart, right?

These kinds of gifts can still have that warm feeling associated with them. Ask someone who knows the person better than you what you could get. Pay attention to what sports team the person likes. You might even simply ask people if there are  small items they have been eyeing but can't bring themselves to purchase. Then when you shop, bend the cold iron bars back from your heart and think of the reasons you are thankful for that person. 

Your joy will be as much a gift to you as it is to the receiver and you will truly know why it is better to give.

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