Gift Registry Etiquette

Sometimes the stress of gift registries can take away from the actual celebration. Fortunately, Modern Manners Guy has 3 tips to make sure you enjoy the gift giving, receiving, and planning as much as the party itself.

Richie Frieman
5-minute read
Episode #210

Maybe it’s the summer wedding season, but for whatever reason this past week I’ve been asked on several occasions about how to deal with a gift registry. Gift giving in general is a big topic when it comes to etiquette, one that I’ve approached on various occasions.

Gift Registry Etiquette

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Gift Giving Etiquette

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Each time I do an episode on gift giving, I receive tons of comments from Modern Manners Guy fans weighing in on this very troubling issue. However, when it comes to a gift registry, the stress is on both the gift giver and the person who created the registry. Let me just say, I’m with you – I’ve been on both sides of the fence and feel your anxiety..

In the end, a registry means there is something to celebrate and that’s the main thing to remember. Thankfully, registering for a gift does not have to be rocket science or as stressful as deciding who to invite to your wedding. That’s a whole other Pandora’s box. Luckily, I’ve covered that too!

So before you register for that $12,000 dinner set (your friends could easily pitch in for it, right?) or spend hours scanning a friend’s registry for the perfect gift, check out my top 3 Quick and Dirty Tips for proper gift registry etiquette:

Tip #1 – Know Your Market

In business, understanding and targeting your desired market is the best way to have a successful company. And that same notion can be applied to gift registries. Recently, a childhood friend of mine was invited to a lavish wedding. When he looked at the registry, he saw there was absolutely nothing on it that he could afford. And he wasn’t alone. The other 8 groomsmen were equally shocked by the high-priced options. My friend was stunned at the extravagant list because it was very unlike the groom to have this sort of taste. However, it was like his fiancé.

Ironically, neither the groom nor the bride:

  • Could afford these items themselves

  • Would ever buy them for someone else’s wedding

  • Have the proper home to showcase a $6,000 Agarwood picture frame (yes, I had to look that up.)

This is a perfect example of not properly understanding your market. There was no way on Earth that any of my colleague’s friends could afford these gifts and it made them feel terrible.

When making your registry list, keep in mind who is attending your event....