How to Not Be Annoying

Do you know That Guy? Or are you That Guy?

Trent Armstrong
4-minute read
Episode #68

Are You Annoying?

Everyone knows That Guy. You know who I'm talking about. I'm talking about the individual who clearly has no sense of self awareness. Someone who makes you wish you were a worse person so you could tell them off and not feel guilty about it. The person that makes you feel embarrassed in a crowded restaurant, the person who interrupts you while you're trying to work, the person who constantly arranges for you to do things with them even though you've expressed no desire and have turned them down repeatedly ... that's That Guy. Ooooooh we hate That Guy! That Guy doesn't have to be a guy at all--That Guy can be a girl, but she's still, That Guy.

Now, if through my ranting, you were unable to identify a That Guy in your life, I may have some tough news for you and maybe you should sit down ... Go ahead.  

Pay Attention to Fake Laughter

I think one of the best things that a person can do is learn to recognize a fake laugh when you hear one.

We all have tendencies, behaviors or outright performances that are irritating to other people. I may be wrong, but I think one of the best things that a person can do is learn to recognize a fake laugh when you hear one -- believe me, you can only get so much fake laughter from a pack of Hell's Angels before it's your bacon. It's been a long time, but I'll see if I can paraphrase the lesson taught by the father in the children’s book, Bedtime for Frances. I believe it went something like, "The first time is funny, the second time is annoying and the third time is a spanking." These, my friends, are words to live by.

Don't Be Too Friendly

Also, believe it or not, it is possible to be too friendly. I think a general rule to be observed is to only be as friendly as is reciprocated to you. You cannot force someone to be your friend -- and excessive kindness can be annoying because the person to whom you're being kind can feel that they now owe you, which isn't a good start to a friendship. I only know of a few friendships that began as resentment. I certainly don't mean that you should never go out on a limb and try to befriend people; you just need to be aware of how that person is receiving you.