Pregnancy Etiquette

Advice for pregnant ladies and the rest of us.

Trent Armstrong
4-minute read
Episode #92

It has been an exciting few episodes here on the Modern Manners Guy's Tips for a More Polite Life, but I can't leave well enough alone. So your Modern Manners Guy has conceived a new idea and is going to tackle pregnancy etiquette in this episode-- and I'm not just looking at how you might be a more polite pregnant lady, but how we as the general public should act toward someone who is pregnant.

Manners for Pregnant Women and Their Spouses

Being pregnant and carrying a baby for 9 months (roughly) is one of those exciting and fascinating parts of life. Those who become pregnant experience a litany of physical and emotional changes. It can be a time of excitement and fear and feeling beautiful and gross all at the same time.

I think it's understandable that pregnant women talk about being pregnant. Being pregnant is all consuming; it's more than a full-time job and can therefore become the center of every conversation that a pregnant woman is involved in. Many times it is almost as consuming for the future dad. This "partner in pregnancy" can be just as consumed with learning everything that has to do with pregnancy and delivery.

My first bit of advice to expectant moms and dads is to avoid making the pregnancy all you ever talk about. There are those who will want to hear about it, but there are also those who are not interested in having a baby or who cannot get pregnant. It's a good thing to be aware of those around you and then make sure you talk about things everyone else wants to talk about as well. I'm not saying don't ever talk about it-- just monitor your topics and mix it up from time to time. 

On the flip side, you can't be expected to avoid the topic altogether when you’re around someone who has had difficulty getting pregnant or who has suffered a miscarriage. Keep it moderate and sensitive. Avoiding it completely will also make things uncomfortable.