Dear Entitled People, you have some work to do.
After hearing this, I’d ask again, “That’s great… but what do you do?” I wasn’t inquiring to be rude, just to learn more about them. However, when you’re only success is touting your last name around like it’s a prize, well, you’re not really winning at all. When your entitlement walks in the room ten feet before you, always keep in mind that no one is impressed. Believing a name means success is my absolute biggest pet peeve, even over the guy who chews with his mouth open.
Don’t get me wrong, if your family kicked butt in the past and you get to live the good life, than go on with your bad self. In fact, deep down we all wish we had it that easy. However, when you use your family’s success as your own, when you don’t even know the address to their office, you’re fooling yourself and coming off completely arrogant. It’s rude to make others who are less fortunate feel inadequate simply because their climb up the corporate ladder didn’t come with a shortcut to the top. It shows no class and no prestige. This concept reminds me of a saying from another great president, Abraham Lincoln: “You have to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather was.” Tell ‘em, Abe.
But here Ol' Honest Abe is saying that despite what you were given—at no fault or acclaim of your own—you have to grow into life, and make a new name for yourself as well.
Tip #3: To The Doubters of Karma
Karma is philosophy found in Hinduism and Buddhism teachings, which means the sum of a person's actions in this and previous states of existence are viewed as deciding their fate in future existences. I dig karma. It’s the backbone of living a mannerly life; do unto others, say please and thank you, have respect for your fellow man/woman, etc. Bottom line, karma allows you to have an inner checklist of proper dos and don’ts. And however righteous I believe karma to be, I find its concept to be terribly absent in many entitled people. Okay, in ALL entitled people. It’s as if certain people can’t see past their immediate actions and how it will affect others in the future, and this shows a complete lack of manners.
When you have an elitist attitude you always put yourself first. You look through others, and only at what’s ahead of you. Doing this doesn’t allow you to see how your actions are affecting people in front and around you. It’s selfish and rude to assume that any form of wealth or status grants you the right to trample over people, be it physically or emotionally. As I alluded to in Tips #1 and #2, what you do at work, in your social life, and give back shows the kind of character you have and what people want in a friend. But hey, if you don’t believe me, keep doing what you’re doing. You may be able to buy your way into certain circles that allow you to do what you wish and act out like a jerk, but karma is like a fly on the wall, watching and waiting.
As always, if you have another manners question, I look forward to hearing from you at firstname.lastname@example.org. Follow me on Twitter @MannersQDT, and of course, check back next week for more Modern Manners Guy tips for a more polite life.
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