What Is Proper Surprise Party Etiquette?

Richie Frieman
4-minute read
Episode #159

So how far should you go to keep the secret of a surprise party? Well, put it this way, when I say, “Keep it a secret” I mean go to the ends of the earth to keep it on the DL. Even if you have to dodge this person for a few days, do it; do whatever you have to NOT to tell them. 

Tip #3: Bring Something

How many times have you asked someone hosting an event, “Can I bring anything?” and then heard him or her say, “No, it’s okay… I got it.” The truth is, they may have everything under control, but when it comes to a surprise party, no one really “has it.” There is so much stress involved in pulling off a surprise party that even seasoned hosts can get frazzled. That’s why the proper thing to do is to bring something anyway. Now, I don’t mean you have to bring enough wine for the entire party but as I said in my past article, “What Is The Proper Hostess Gift?”  arriving with a gift that shows the utmost gratitude for being invited shows that you have mastered the art of party etiquette. 

Giving a gift to the host of the party--or shall I say FOR the host of the party--to use that night is just a nice way to let him or her  know that you appreciated all their hard work. Planning a surprise party is not like planning a dinner party with friends (which is a task) and the stress can really boil over. Like I said in Tip #1, it only takes one tardy person to ruin the night, or one loudmouth to spoil the whole surprise. So, give the proper gift--like a bottle of wine, a dessert,  flowers, or anything that the host of the surprise party can use to make the night that much more special--and you’ll stand out as an excellent guest—with impeccable manners, of course.

Do you have a great story about an improper surprise party guest? Post them on my Modern Manners Guy Facebook page so we can all hear the details. As always, if you have another manners question, I’m look forward to hearing from you so drop me a line at manners@quickanddirtytips.com. As well, don’t forget to follow me on Twitter  @MannersQDT. And of course, check back next week for more Modern Manners Guy tips. 

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