What Is the Proper Engagement Gift?

Making sure you give the right engagement present to the happy couple is key. Find out how to handle the task with these 3 tips from Modern Manners Guy.

Richie Frieman
4-minute read
Episode #142

Engagement Gift Tip #2:  A Group Gift

I had 8 groomsmen in my wedding party and I have been the best man in 5 weddings, so I’m used to hanging out with a tight group of guys. One way we like to give engagement gifts is by doing a group gift. We pool our money together and get the happy couple something from all of us. It ends up being a very nice present and saves us a lot of money individually.

Group gifts don’t have to just come from groups of friends. A family can also give a group gift. Wedding gifts tend to come from a person or a couple, but engagement gifts can be from the whole family. The engagement gift is also the best time to give a unique gift. For example, 6 of my friends came together and got me a TiVo (and a lifetime subscription) for my engagement.  It was a very generous gift, but because it was split among a group, it didn’t break their individual banks.

Engagement Gift Tip #3:  Be Creative

As I said in the previous two tips, the engagement gift is the sneak peek to the wedding gift. It has a looser and more casual feel than a wedding gift, which is why I like to go off registry and get creative. I also like to find a fun gift and personalize it.

A really cool gift I received - and then gave - was a personalized wine bottle with a custom label with our names and date of the wedding. Another great gift I got a couple who got engaged on Christmas was a crystal ornament that had the dates of their engagement and upcoming wedding etched into it. It was simple, elegant, spoke to the moment, was one of a kind and didn’t break the bank. I gave a couple who lived by the beach personalized beach towels with their names and the date of their wedding etched on them. All of these gifts are just examples of presents that were much appreciated because they were fun, personal, and of course thoughtful—three great things to keep in mind when deciding on an engagement gift.

Do you have a great story about an engagement present you gave or received? Post them on my Modern Manners Guy Facebook page so we can all hear the details.

As always, if you have another manners question, I’m look forward to hearing from you so drop me a line at manners@quickanddirtytips.com. As well, don’t forget to follow me on Twitter @MannersQDT. And of course, check back next week for more Modern Manners Guy tips.

Gift image courtesy of Shutterstock.


About the Author

Richie Frieman
The Quick and Dirty Tips Privacy Notice has been updated to explain how we use cookies, which you accept by continuing to use this website. To withdraw your consent, see Your Choices.