Express Gratitude to Build Relationships

The simple act of saying "Thank You" when it's sincere and unexpected can deepen your relationships.

Stever Robbins
4-minute read
Episode #45

"Thank You" turns enemies into friends

You can also use Thank You to turn enemies into friends. Remember that bully, ironically named “Angel,” who used to hold your head under water after insulting your fabulously colorful almost-paisley bedsheets? Find something you genuinely appreciate about Angel. Call and say thank you. “Angel, I know we’ve had differences, and I admire and respect how you did such an amazing job helping the whole basketball team work together. I never told you at the time. Thank you.” You’ll be amazed how this can change your relationship. Today, your mortal nemesis. Tomorrow? Your bedsheet fashion consultant.

Other people you might want to thank: a parent, a sibling, your co-workers, the political candidate you voted for, the one you didn’t, your children’s teachers, the dry cleaner. The list goes on and on.

Now it’s your turn. Go out right now and thank three people. Do it for real. Don’t do it for them, do it for yourself, because gratitude feels good. You’ll find yourself deepening and strengthening friendships. You may even find a few friends you didn’t know were there in the first place. And if thanking people brings more intimacy to your life and you’re wondering whether to do it again, just remember these simple words: “Thank you sir, may I have another.”

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About the Author

Stever Robbins

Stever Robbins was the host of the podcast Get-it-Done Guy from 2007 to 2019. He is a graduate of W. Edward Deming’s Total Quality Management training program and a Certified Master Trainer Elite of NLP. He holds an MBA from the Harvard Business School and a BS in Computer Sciences from MIT.