How to say "No" graciously, with guest Byron Katie.
Now, a co-worker asking for a favor.
S: I am your co-worker. I have a hair appointment at lunch. Could you cover for me at the desk?
K: You know, actually, I'm unable to.
S: Oh, come on. I'll cover for you next time.
K: You know, I really appreciate that. I'll look forward to that for sure. And I'm unable to cover you on this one, but I know you'll have a great time at the hair-dresser.
S: You're not being a team player here!
K: You know, it really looks that way, doesn't it? And of course, as we know, I am.
Finally, a teenager who wants the car.
S: I'm a teenager and you're a mother.
S: Hey Mom! Can I use your car to go to the movies?
K: No, actually, no.
S: All the other kids' parents let them use the car.
K: Oh, my goodness, it's true, isn't it? You know, we really have different lives.
S: If you loved me, you'd let me use the car.
K: You know, it's so interesting you would say that. You know, I love you with all my heart, and I'm not letting you use the car.
S: Mom, I hate you! I hate you! Everything in my life that's wrong is wrong because of you.
K: Oh, honey. I'm so sorry you feel that way. I adore you.
Say "No" to Say "Yes"
Remember: sometimes you need to say "No" to interruptions so you can say "Yes" to your current commitments. Listen deeply, acknowledge the other person, and then say "No" from a place of kindness.
Work Less, Do More, and have a Great Life!
- Byron Katie interview: http://www.steverrobbins.com/getitdoneguy/byron-katie-saying-an-honest-no.htm
- Byron Katie's web site: http://www.TheWork.com
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