How to Stop Nightmares and Night Terrors

This week on the Savvy Psychologist podcast, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen outlines 4 differences between nightmares and night terrors. Plus, tips on how to get rid of each so you can drift back to dreamland.

Ellen Hendriksen, PhD
7-minute read
Episode #55

Who hasn’t woken up tangled in sheets, sweating, terrified from a nightmare?  

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Whether you’re late for an exam, naked in public, or being chased by anything from a dinosaur to a scary clown, we’ve all been jolted awake, afraid of the monsters in our heads.  

But while nightmares are stressful for the dreamer, night terrors are often more stressful for the observer.  We see our partner or child sit bolt upright in bed, scream, and thrash around with a panicked look in his or her wide open eyes.  Eventually, they’ll drift back into peaceful sleep.  

The kicker?  They don’t remember any of it in the morning.

This week, we’ll cover the 4 differences between nightmares and night terrors, and talk about a treatment for each, by request from listener Margaret Flannery from Michigan.

Difference #1: Sleep Stages

First, let’s do a quick primer on sleep stages.  In 2007, the American Academy of Sleep Medicine updated the phases of sleep.  Since 1968, there had been 4 phases plus REM - the stage where dreaming occurs. But in 2007, phases 3 and 4 were consolidated, leaving us with NREM stage 1, NREM stage 2, NREM stage 3, which is also called slow wave sleep, and REM..


During REM sleep, the brain is as active as when it is awake, and while the jury is still out on the exact function of REM sleep, we do know it’s when dreams (and those chased-by-a-dinosaur nightmares) take place.

Night terrors, on the other hand, occur during NREM stage 3, or slow wave sleep, which is thought to be important for consolidating memories from the day. During slow wave sleep, the brain rests, as evidenced by less blood flow and a slower metabolic rate within the brain. Also, within each wave, a short period occurs where neurons are silent, giving them a break.

This is why, if you wake someone up from a night terror, they are groggy and befuddled. It takes a few moments to transition out of slow wave sleep, get that blood flowing, and get neurons firing like normal again.

Difference #2: Awakening

Speaking of getting woken up, you’re sure to remember a nightmare that’s jolted you awake. Light sleepers and those suffering from anxiety or depression are also more likely to remember their dreams, as both these disorders increase the likelihood of awakenings - whether micro or extended - in the middle of the night.

However, during a night terror, even though your eyes are wide open, your heart is racing, you may talk or yell, and you’re thrashing around or even running through the house, you’re still technically asleep. In sleep parlance, it’s called a partial awakening, though observers might just call it spooky.

Difference #3: Age and Gender

Nightmares can happen to anyone at any age, though frequency declines from childhood on. Still, about 4% of adults have nightmares at least weekly. Nightmares are more often reported by women, but it’s unclear if women are also more likely to report or not.

For night terrors, the highest frequency is also among kids, affecting up to 6.5% of children. Night terrors may start around age 3 or sometimes earlier, are most common from 5-7, and usually taper off by age 12. Only about 1-2% of the adult population experiences night terrors on a regular basis. In childhood, they’re more frequent in boys, but in adulthood, night terrors affect men and women equally.

Difference #4: Links to Mental Health Challenges

A perpetual question about nightmares is whether they’re a sign of some deeper trouble or if a nightmare can just be a nightmare. Turns out the answer to both parts is "Yes."

There’s some evidence that nightmares are linked to depression and anxiety in adults, as well as to other sleep disorders such as sleep apnea and Restless Legs Syndrome.  

And nightmares are strongly linked to PTSD - in fact, they’re a key symptom of re-experiencing, one of the 3 symptom clusters along with avoidance and hyperarousal. When nightmares are chronic, the individual suffering from PTSD may even avoid sleep, rationalizing “If I don’t sleep, I can’t have a nightmare.”  

As a result, many self-medicate by drinking gallons of coffee or loading a schedule so full of work, classes, and other obligations that there’s little chance for sleep. It’s productive, but it makes for a lousy (and drowsy) quality of life.

See also: 5 Signs of PTSD and 7 Myths and One Big Fact About PTSD


All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.

About the Author

Ellen Hendriksen, PhD

Dr. Ellen Hendriksen was the host of the Savvy Psychologist podcast from 2014 to 2019. She is a clinical psychologist at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders (CARD). She earned her Ph.D. at UCLA and completed her training at Harvard Medical School. Her scientifically-based, zero-judgment approach is regularly featured in Psychology Today, Scientific American, The Huffington Post, and many other media outlets. Her debut book, HOW TO BE YOURSELF: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety, was published in March 2018.