Feeling the holiday blues? Try these six tips to feel more connected during the holiday season.
DO Buy Gifts
If you are feeling lonely, it can seem like a perfect excuse to skip shopping for holiday gifts this year, but DON’T. Going out and buying even just a small gift for each person on your list can help you feel connected to them. You get to think about your loved ones during the buying process, and (hopefully) they will call you to thank you for the gifts. Again, if you don’t feel like you have anyone to give a gift to, think outside the typical friends and family bubble.
Think about the people you interact with on a regular basis, maybe the woman who delivers your mail, the young man who works at the coffee shop, or the security guard at your office. Consider finding something small to give to those people. It may catch them off guard that you are giving them a gift, but if you let them know that you just wanted to give them something small to show your appreciation for the smiles, great attitude, and conversation they provided you throughout the year, they will likely accept with another big smile.
A quick handshake and a smile might just help you feel a connection where you hadn’t felt one yet this holiday season.
Search Out Others Who Feel the Same
If you are feeling lonely, it may be hard to realize, but you are not alone. There are many people who feel down during the holidays, so take the initiative to search out a few of those people. Maybe you recently lost someone close to you. Search for a grief group to be able to connect with others who truly understand the feelings of loss you are going through. Maybe you are living far away from your family. There are many others who are as well. Search for community meals that are being offered so you can join others who don’t have family to celebrate with. If you attend religious services, you can ask the ushers if there is anyone there alone and asked to be seated with them. A quick handshake and a smile might just help you feel a connection where you hadn’t felt one yet this holiday season.
Allow Yourself to Be Sad, But Make Plans for Next Year
When we had our years of being alone for the holidays, I was sad many of those years, but it wasn’t until I got so fed up with it that I decided it would be the last year we weren’t with family on Christmas. I told my husband that I couldn’t do it again. I enjoyed Christmas traditions so much that I didn’t want to spend another holiday season without being with one of our families. We started budgeting to be able to pay for the tickets to go back to our hometowns. We found people to watch our dogs. And, when we realized that we miss our dogs when we leave them behind, we even convinced my parents to let us bring our dogs with us.
You know that saying, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way”? It really is true. If you are tired of being lonely, you can start to put the plans in place to not be alone next year. If you are at a breaking point of sadness, use that to fuel your drive to make it different next year.
There are a number of things you can do to get through the holiday season blues. These are simply six ideas we have implemented in our own lives to help us. If you have other ideas, I’d love for you to share the tips you have on my Facebook page or in the comment section below.
Until next time, I’m the Domestic CEO.