Getting married? Use these 5 tips from Domestic CEO to help create your ideal wedding registry - and avoid any showdowns with your other half.
Anyone who’s gotten married can testify to the fact that the wedding planning process can be a wee bit stressful. When my husband and I got married, we spent about a year attempting to plan the wedding. Finally, after countless days of discussion, my then-fiancé said with exasperated sigh, “Let’s just go to Vegas.” I quickly vetoed that idea, so he said, “Well, how about Hawaii?” That was all I needed to hear to start planning our runaway wedding in Kauai!
But even though our wedding ended up being fairly stress-free (I actually went surfing the morning of my ceremony), creating our wedding registry almost caused a war in the middle of Target. To help you and your fiancé or fiancée avoid a similar situation, I’ve compiled a few tips that my fellow married friends and I learned during the wedding planning process.
We hope that you can use these 5 tips to help create a wedding registry that will not only fill your home with needed items, but also keep you (and your wedding guests) happy during the celebrations.
Tip #1: Take Inventory of What You Already Have
Whether you are combining 2 households, or you’ve already been living together for years, before you create a wedding registry, it’s a good idea to take inventory of what you already have in your home or homes. Then, after you get everything listed, take note of what condition the items are in. This will help you determine if you want or need to replace them with items you’ll later add to your registry.
Often times, people come in to marriages with lots of hand-me-down or single-life items. You may have a couple mismatched towels that have served you well, but feel that you’ll want to upgrade once you are married. Consider using all the items you have already in stock as extras for guests.
So while you may want to get a new set of sheets for your marital bed, you may not need to ask for extra sets for your guest bed if you already have a working set in your cabinets. Knowing what you already have will help you prioritize which items go onto your registry.
Tip #2: Compile a List of Items You Want Beforehand
Once you have your inventory lists created, it’s time to make a list of the items you don’t yet have, but feel that you need to be able to start your married life off on the right foot.
Go through your kitchen, bathrooms, and bedrooms, and write down all the items that you might need. These items should be first priority for your list. Keep in mind that these are the items that, even though they may seem boring, you know you’ll need for your home.
When you are creating this list, make sure you are doing it with your fiancé or fiancée, since it’s likely this process is going to be a lesson in compromise. While you may think that a set of fine china is necessary, your soon-to-be spouse may think that’s archaic. Likewise, your bethrothed may be convinced that a new gaming system would be an ideal item for your registry, but you may feel there are more practical items to puton the list first.
The goal is to have this discussion before you go to the store. Those registry scanner guns that most stores have are a powerful tool - they can cause fights, meltdowns, and bad decisions, especially if one of you is convinced that an item that just caught your eye on the shelf is now a must-have for your registry.