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How to Brag About Your Kids Without Being Obnoxious

Next time your cherub does something newsworthy that you want to share with the rest of the world, keep Mighty Mommy’s six tips for bragging about your child in mind. That way, you can do so graciously, without being one of those obnoxious parents.

By
Cheryl Butler,
Episode #333

As parents, one of the privileges that comes along with the joy of raising our kids are bragging rights. Whether our kid hits a home run, wins a spelling bee, gets accepted to the college of her dreams, or gets voted most creative kid in his or her high school, not only are we proud as can be, we also want the entire world to know what he or she has accomplished.

Hey, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with blowing your kid’s horn, but it’s how loud we blow it and how often that matters! Here are six tips for bragging about your children without being one of those obnoxious parents..

#1 Choose Your Bragging Platform Carefully

Thanks to today’s world of social media, this parenting generation can access or share information both close to home or across the nation in an instant. While this is certainly an awesome advantage, it can also be a detriment if not used properly—particularly when it comes to posting something on Facebook or Twitter. Even though we may have good intentions about what we are posting, the way we choose our wording can either get others excited about our good news or cause them to be resentful, jealous, or even irritated with our message.

When sharing one of your kid’s accomplishments on social media, be mindful of who your audience is. Your son Jack just made team captain again, beating out ten other friends whose parents follow you on Facebook. So now that he’s told you, you can’t wait to tell the rest of the town, right? You might feel so inclined to blurt out a post, like: “Jack’s done it again—he’s just been made Captain of the Basketball team because his coaches feel he is the best role model for the rest of the guys on the team and, after watching him football Captain, where he lead the team in touchdowns, they are confident he will perform the same for the basketball team!  Go Jack!” Instead, you could perhaps post something such as “Looking forward to the basketball season this year. Proud that Jack will be a Captain because there is a great group of guys on this team that make attending these games so much fun. " See Also:  7 Ways to Raise a Caring Child

#2  Brag Out of Your Own Circle

Because I have eight kids ranging in ages from ages 9 to 22, I experience nearly every parenting achievement and setback for each age group that there possibly can be. And because I’m friends with many of my kid’s friend’s parents, I’m chatting it up with lots of different ages and stages all year long.

This gives me the opportunity to share stories (good and bad) with all my parenting pals, and what I’ve found over the years is that parents enjoy hearing about my own kid’s triumphs more so when I’m talking to parents that aren’t in my own kid’s circle—particularly when there is an age difference.  For example, my daughter who is 9 has a group of friends whose parents like to hear what’s going on in my college-aged kid’s lives because there isn’t any “threat” to them when I share that my high-school senior earned a nice scholarship to college this year. They aren’t even thinking about Jr. High School at this point, never mind college, so they are happy to listen to me tout an achievement because it doesn’t feel like I’m making a direct comparison to their child. In other words, brag to parents whose kids are not the same age as yours. It's OK to boast about your toddler's toilet-training success to someone raising a teenager.

#3 Brag in the Present, Not in the Past

Let’s face it: sometimes, we all like to live vicariously through others, particularly our children. Maybe you had a strong desire to be a dancer growing up, and your parents had you enrolled with various studios taking lessons and performing at recitals here, there, and everywhere. But once you hit your teen years, those dance lessons became a thing of the past and you never really lived out your dream to be dancing on stage. Now, it’s your own daughter’s turn to entertain the masses with her tap dancing prowess, and all those memories of your own pink sequined tutu come flooding back. 

Be mindful of how you flaunt her budding dance career to others so that it doesn’t come off as using your child to get a bit of attention to make yourself feel better for something that didn’t happen for you as a child. “Maddie seems to be enjoying dance as much as I did as a kid” sounds a lot more encouraging than “Maddie’s pirouette is almost as brilliant as the one I mastered when I was her age. Check out her poise and grace in the photos from her recent dance recital."

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