I’m Afraid Kids Have Fears

It’s interesting how certain things will scare one child and not the other.

Cherylyn Feierabend
3-minute read
Episode #98

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This week we had a water pipe burst in our front yard. This has caused a strange bubbling in the toilet in our bathroom. It’s similar to a water bottle bubbling when someone fills their cup. For some reason my daughter is scared of the bubbling. Similarly odd is that my daughter’s best friend becomes terrified when my daughter wears plastic vampire teeth in her mouth. Both of these children, however, are completely fearless when it comes to wandering around a busy parking lot. Why is that? What makes kids worry about the things we deem normal, while ignoring our pleas to be safe in dangerous environments?

I don’t know what causes children to choose their fears, but I’d like to think I can help my kids overcome them or at least deal with them in a rational manner. This is coming from a mom who has an irrational fear of turtles. Hey, we all have our secrets. Don’t tell anyone, OK?

I think it’s important to know that we don’t necessarily have to understand or agree with a fear in order to help our child deal with it. Sometimes it does help, but not always. If my daughter expresses that she’s afraid of the dark, I don’t necessarily want to discuss it with her. I guess I feel that if she’s in the dark and talking about what is scaring her in there, it’s just going to remind her to think about it. I think it’s better to solve the simple problems. If she doesn’t like it dark, I respect that fear and turn on a night-light or the hall light. It’s much more important to respect her feelings than it is to understand them when it comes to fears.