Tips for Kids and Their Toys

How to deal with lost toys or how to not lose them in the first place.

Cherylyn Feierabend
4-minute read
Episode #165

Recently, my sweetheart of a husband suggested to me that I talk about how to handle what to do when a child loses her favorite toy and has a meltdown. We were talking about it over lunch while dining out with our children. The conversation became much more amusing when I later returned home from work to find out that he’d had to return to the exact same restaurant because my daughter had forgotten two toys she’d left there. They went back to find the toys and the wait staff had thrown them away. They were able to locate them and wash them off, thankfully, but ultimately, the entire scene could have been avoided.

When Should Kids Bring Toys Places?

The first thing I had to ask myself was why the toys were there to begin with. That’s pretty simple. My daughter brought them into the restaurant. I certainly don’t have a problem with my kids bringing toys when we are going somewhere where there might be downtime. In this particular case, the restaurant had crayons and coloring sheets, which is what my children occupied themselves with the entire time while waiting for our food. So the toys were forgotten on the side of the table. I had even made a mental note for myself to remember to grab them, but I apparently lost the note. If you are considering whether or not toys, or any other possessions, should come with your child, ask yourself these three questions.

  • Will it make the excursion more fun or easier for everyone? If so, bringing your own toys is generally a good idea to help keep children occupied and patient.

  • Will there already be something else to do that will take priority over the toys? If so, then you should leave your toys behind because they will be unnecessary and more likely to be laid aside and forgotten. 

  • Is the toy extremely precious to the child or irreplaceable? If it is, you should leave it at home. The more precious the possession, the bigger the meltdown when it’s lost, and if it’s something you can’t replace easily, you are basically just asking for trouble.


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