What to Do After Sending an Embarrassing Text or E-mail

Have you ever sent an embarrassing email or text that you wish you hadn’t? Learn how to survive that moment.

Richie Frieman
4-minute read
Episode #130

Let’s be honest here and admit we’ve all sent a text or email that we prayed didn’t make it. But despite cursing your phone or computer screen like Samuel L. Jackson in Pulp Fiction, your message was still delivered. Don’t worry; there are some clever ways to survive this tragic event.

What to Do After Sending an Embarrassing Text or Email

First we need to accept that unless DeLorean starts mass producing actual time machines, you can’t go back to the future to change your embarrassing text or email. You can only hope to recover some integrity.  In this article, I’ll cover three common embarrassing scenarios and how to recover politely, professionally, and of course with some good humor.

Embarrassing Text or Email #1: The Drunken Message

My all time favorite.

The drunken message usually occurs on weekends, from the hours of 11PM to 3AM, after--or while--consuming enough alcohol that Lindsay Lohan herself would even advise slowing down a bit. The texter/emailer usually thinks that right now is both the perfect and necessary time to express their true feelings—whether it’s professing their love or saying rather colorfully that they’re glad the relationship is O V E R.

The worst thing about this instance is that you usually don’t realize you sent the message until several hours later, when you wake up in the same clothes you went out in, face down in your living room, with the cell phone still in your hand. It’s at that point that you scream a rainbow of expletives and pray you didn’t press “send.” But please know, you definitely did.

The best way to put this fire out--go for a laugh.  The fact that you have a friendly relationship with the person could be your saving grace. Even if you aren’t  funny, try your best--or email me, I’ll help you out.  Something like, “Oh that message? Let me explain, see what happened was last night I wanted to see what it’s like to be a complete and utter jackass and to ruin a great relationship. Wouldn’t you know--I nailed it!  Let’s talk more over lunch? My treat.”

The person will at least know you tried. I can’t promise it will completely salvage the relationship, but it will at least get you another chance to prove yourself.