Home Selling Etiquette
Whoever said buying or selling a home is a joyous occasion clearly needs a refresher course in reality ... because it stinks!
I'm currently in the process of buying a new home, and let me just say, it's an utter nightmare. This is the third house I've owned, and each time it's a greater test of patience. The home buying process has made my four-letter vocabulary increase tenfold.
Of all the reasons why home buying stinks (finances, the documents, shoddy interest rates, etc.) the main reason I’m on the brink of insanity is the unrealistic home owners who believe their house is made of gold. It's one thing to be attached to your house or think it's pretty, but some unmannerly homeowners refuse to listen to what a licensed, trained, professional inspector has to say about their house.
Here's the deal with home inspections: they're fact. They are measured by licensed, trained professionals who couldn't care less who you are, how much money you have, or how much you want to buy or sell a house. At the end of the day they get paid whether the house is in perfect shape or it needs to be demolished. They write their report, they go home, and you will never see them again.
A leaky faucet? Well, that gets written up. A broken septic tank - yup, that too. And the fact that there are termites in your house - once again gets archived as fact. Are you going to argue about the termites? Are you going to deny there is waste leaking from your septic system when the licensed professional runs their test? This doesn't look defensive -- it looks foolish.
Selling your home reveals things that you never knew were there, and that can be hard to hear. After all, everything that goes wrong is either less money in your pocket, or closer to the deal not going through at all. But to argue with fact is insane! Would you believe a seller over a professional and let rotting wood in the basement slide? If your answer to that is "yes," then I have a fantastic house made out of old cardboard boxes -- I made it with my daughter, and I’m willing to sell it to you for a low, low price!
When dealing with a seller who sees their house only through rosy lenses, when the quality of their house is as murky as the fields of a Tough Mudder event, be careful. They will fight you to the end on every little detail, arguing it's okay when we all know it’s not. These types of people probably see other things in their lives as not their fault, blaming others for when things don’t go their way. It’s immature and unmannerly not to be able to take criticism and be able to move on, be it selling a home or simply bettering your life from the inside.
Don't be this type of person, folks. In life it's always best to follow your heart ... until it's time to get a loan. Then you have to follow your brain. This is a time when you have to accept what is in front of you and figure out how to properly move forward, or not for that matter simply walk away.
So, what are your thoughts? As always, if you have another manners question, I look forward to hearing from you at firstname.lastname@example.org. Follow me on Twitter @MannersQDT, and of course, check back next week for more Modern Manners Guy tips for a more polite life.
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